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Weekly Debate #7: Parenting
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ASHelmy
I'm going to halfway agree here. It is the parents fault if they are left in a position where they have to spank a child. However, if that situation comes, which is a good possibility, it would be another mistake not to spank. Picture a child's behavior as a train. If it gets going to fast, you just slow the engines till it is at a reasonable speed. However, if you don't you may need to slam on the emergency brake before you collide with the next train. That is what spanking is, it is the emergency brake. It is your responsibility to slow the engines before it even becomes an issue. However, you aren't a perfect parent, and if things get a little out of control, the emergency brake prevents the wreck.
And every time you slam on that emergency brake, the metal joints gets a bit more loosened up, until one of these days when you attempt to slam on the brake and finds it completely jammed, and you just wish that you had tried to simply eased on the brakes before.
@ ASH.
sometimes a kid needs spanking and it's not the parents fault; you can't control a child's life 100% of the time.
Example for the first part? And exactly for the second part. Sometimes, parents just need to learn when to let their kids go into the world and explore, get hurt, and learn on their own.
Well, when a kid goes to school (lets not turn this into school vs home school) you can't really control his actions, best you can do is hope that you prepared him, but he is bound to find himself in a situation where his response will not be the right thing to do.
It is unrealistic to think that you can prepare a kid for all the possible scenarios he might face. Sometimes, he has to do the mistake to learn (like you said), it is your job then to make sure he learns, if he will not listen to reason or respond to punishment, then spanking is the way to go.
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Patty
Should parents be allowed to hit their kids, as long as the child does not need to be hospitalised?
Well, I think that hitting is alright as a form of discipline, as long as it is a hit and not a malicious smack or beating.
However, I feel that other options should be exhausted first.
The main problem with kids of today (lol I know I am only 16, but some people are so rude!) is that the parents are too slack, and let games or whatever bring them up rather than parents themselves. So maybe it is ok.
When I did something wrong I might have occassionally got a smack on the arse, did me good. But, I hate the sound of kids crying. ):
I suppose in an ideal world, you wouldn't need to beat them, they would be good enough on their own. But, this isn't heaven or Eutopia (Spelling?), And it is much easier to talk about things without experience, in a hypothetical experience. So, I suppose it will have to wait until you are a parent to find out if you agree or disagree with it.
Basically, a tap is ok, a beating is not. There is a very fine line between the two...
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Blackboy0
Should parents be allowed to hit their kids, as long as the child does not need to be hospitalized?
Dang no.
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Post by
doublediamond410
down here in georgia every parent spanks their kids either with a wooden spoon, belt, or a thorny stick
Well, not every parent. Having also grown up in Georgia, my parents strictly used the "open hand" policy (a lot more difficult to know you hit too hard if you can't feel it as well).
All this talk of "hitting your kid will eventually escalate into physical abuse because he gets desensitized over time" and "you will make your children hate you" is utter nonsense and comes from the assumption that my parents whipped me if I coughed too loud instead of
actually trying to reason
with my trouble-making butt first.
I don't doubt that there are cases where parents take it to the extreme, but of all the children (when I was young) and parents (now) I've spoken to, I've yet to see it once.
(And yes, the wooden spoon is a popular item for discipline in Georgia. The radio station Q100 --- at 99.7 oddly -- had an entire morning session about the debate of spanking.)
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Post by
MyTie
Sounds a little extreme! Actually, it sounds very extreme! A cattle herding impedment shouldn't be used on children! It couldn't be good! Slightly less invasive is your use of exclaimation points! Not that they are bad! I had just never seen so many! Thanks for your insight though!
Post by
TheMediator
Your parents electrocuted you? Uhhh... that goes too far in my book, might as well put a shock collar on you and start zapping the %^&* out of you every time you refuse to get back in your cage.
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Erlinn
There are degrees to it. Hitting your child can sometimes be necessary, but beating your child crosses the mind in my opinion, you're going from disciplining the child to letting your anger out on them.
This. There is a very blatant difference between trying to teach your children a proper lesson and just being angry.
But no, I don't think parents should be allowed to hit kids. My parents never hit me and I was nice and terrified of crossing them while growing up.
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