This site makes extensive use of JavaScript.
Please enable JavaScript in your browser.
Live
PTR
10.2.7
PTR
10.2.6
Beta
Drop by and say hi! (Recycle Bin)
Post Reply
Return to board index
Post by
Haxzor
Punishment is well deserved
Post by
Squishalot
You grounded her for being honest to you? (partially)(##RESPBREAK##)8##DELIM##Squishalot##DELIM##
Post by
Haxzor
just webMD'd my chest pain.
I have all the cancers.
Post by
MyTie
Punishment is well deserved
Probably. It's not so much a punishment, that it is a character building exercise. I don't want my daughter growing up to think that her current mentality is acceptable.just webMD'd my chest pain.
I have all the cancers.
Just have some wine.
Post by
Haxzor
I'm sober, so no wine for me
Post by
MyTie
I'm sober, so no wine for me
Let's see... what kind of cure for cancer do I have that doesn't involve alcohol. Well, I can't recommend sex, because that would be against my religion, if you aren't married. Without sex, and without alcohol, I guess you're doomed. Sorry.
Post by
Haxzor
tomatoes?
broccoli?
Post by
MyTie
tomatoes?
broccoli?
Mmmmm.
Post by
Sas148
How is it you're able to change her Facebook password? That's one thing I can guarantee. My parents were never going to be able to do a damn thing to my various online accounts. Technically they had the ability to do things to my physical computer, but beyond that... negative.
I am a bit confused though, you asked her a question, and she answered honestly... you chose to punish her for that? I mean, all I can see happening from that is in the future she'll choose to lie to your face then and tell you what you clearly want to hear as to avoid a more severe punishment. It almost seems as if you're conditioning her to lie in the future, essentially encouraging her to sin. (Not sure if your religious beliefs are her own or not, just presuming).(##RESPBREAK##)2060##DELIM##Sas148##DELIM##
Post by
Interest
Uh guys. My main account got hijacked and I can't reset the password...>_> (And honestly, if you can't figure out who I am, it's Interest)
April Fools'
I see what he really did there...
(When you quote it you will find "April Fools'" there...)
A good observation. I'm still keeping this for awhile.
Post by
Perkocet
Ahh, the fabulous smell of dictatorship.
Post by
Rankkor
Well, I feel like CRAP, so I'm gonna lie down for a while. Damned meds. Why can't they make medicine that doesn't have side-effects?
Post by
Interest
Ahh, the fabulous smell of dictatorship.
All hail our supreme leader Teemo.
Post by
240140
This post was from a user who has deleted their account.
Post by
Interest
Hut two three four captain teemo captain teemo hut two three four captain teemo captain teemo hut two three four h-hut two three four never underestimate the power of cap-captain teemo.
Post by
MyTie
How is it you're able to change her Facebook password? That's one thing I can guarantee. My parents were never going to be able to do a damn thing to my various online accounts. Technically they had the ability to do things to my physical computer, but beyond that... negative.If she wants freedom on the computer, she surrenders control of her accounts. Either we have control and oversight of what she does on the internet, or she doesn't use it.I am a bit confused though, you asked her a question, and she answered honestly... you chose to punish her for that? I mean, all I can see happening from that is in the future she'll choose to lie to your face then and tell you what you clearly want to hear as to avoid a more severe punishment. It almost seems as if you're conditioning her to lie in the future, essentially encouraging her to sin. (Not sure if your religious beliefs are her own or not, just presuming).
Yes. It's a dicey road to walk, and certainly, parenting isn't black and white, cut and dry. It's complicated, and difficult. However honest (I'll clarify that later) she may have been, she was in for a turn for discipline. She was acting distant, rude, and self centered. While acceptable to many parents these days, I simply do not accept that. Now, I will get the truth. She knows that. I'm effective at that, and she knows it. As bad as it is, it would have been worse had she lied to me.
But, in any case, I don't think we are really talking about "honesty" anyway. Do I think she doesn't love me? Do I think she never wants to see me again? Really? Laughable. She's simply acting out, to test the limits of how much she can define the relationship. It's simply a gambit, a struggle for power. If she were to be honest, really honest, she would have expressed her unhappiness, while reaffirming respect and love. But, instead she let emotions and manipulation rule the day. I gave her a day to think about it, and she still insisted on her opinion. She wants to play my emotions, and try to bring me down to a fighting level, and then try to bargain for a better position, under the guise that she deserves it because of her "honesty". No. I don't play games with 14 year olds. I'll break that part of her, that manipulation, that self centered hateful "shell" that she has erected to try to protect her. It isn't healthy. I certainly don't want to foster it, and then have to deal with it for the next 20+ years. I'll just make her weed the garden for a while, and then she can be respectful, and honest, instead of frank and manipulative.
Sas, parenting takes thought, patience, courage, and self discipline. An effective parent does not let their kids win, and at the same time, doesn't allow them to lose.
Post by
Sas148
Fair enough
Post by
Interest
Q_Q
Post by
Haxzor
makes sense
Post by
Interest
makes sense
It does, doesn't it?
Post Reply
You are not logged in. Please
log in
to post a reply or
register
if you don't already have an account.