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Post by
Gzer0
Guys , I wonder if someone could help me.
My best friend loved a girl , they had been in love for 2 months , but after 2 months my friend leaved his girl friend.His girl friend was so upset about this action and she was depressed about 3 months.
After 6 months , I decided to have a relationship with my friend's girl friend .She accepted me and we've been friend around a months , And i promised her not to break her heart like my friend.
now after 6 months , My friend decided to have relationship again with his previous girl friend who is my girl friend Right now.When he find out we have relationship , He told my I'm not anymore his Bro and I betrayed him.
But in my opinion i don't think so , I didn't do anything wrong.Their relationship have been finished for 6 months , So i think it's not problem if i have relationship with his previous girl friend.
What do you think ? Have i done some thing wrong ?
Post by
MyTie
It's spelled "involved".
Dump them both.
Post by
Lombax
He's no bro, get rid of him.
A bro should not accuse a bro of not being a bro.
Post by
MyTie
He's no bro, get rid of him.
A bro should not accuse a bro of not being a bro.
If I were a bro, which I am not a bro, but if I were a bro, and I had a bro, and another bro, and my bro told my bro that my bro were not his bro, and looked at me all like "BRO! Are you his bro, bro?" I'd be my own bro and leave the bros to bro it out on their own.
Post by
Monday
He's no bro, get rid of him.
A bro should not accuse a bro of not being a bro.
If I were a bro, which I am not a bro, but if I were a bro, and I had a bro, and another bro, and my bro told my bro that my bro were not his bro, and looked at me all like "BRO! Are you his bro, bro?" I'd be my own bro and leave the bros to bro it out on their own.
Yo dawg...
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557473
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Post by
OverZealous
So, if I read this correctly
1.Your Friend (YF) broke up with the girl (G)
2. You started a relationship with her after some time passed
3. And now he wanted to get back, but you are already there and so you are not bro.
He is a retard, not your fault.
This, down to the letter. If the two of them broke up, he can't go all "Well, I want my property back" because he does not own the girl by any stretch of imagination. Saying you've betrayed him because you have started a relationship with his ex months later makes no sense.
Post by
Patty
So, if I read this correctly
1.Your Friend (YF) broke up with the girl (G)
2. You started a relationship with her after some time passed
3. And now he wanted to get back, but you are already there and so you are not bro.
He is a retard, not your fault.
Using the above translation: you did very little wrong, but maybe it would have been more tactful to approach your friend, see how they feel about their ex before hooking up with them, just to avoid any awkward situations with him. Basically, he feels you value your potential relationship with a girl he still has feelings for more than you value your friendship for him, whether that's right or wrong.
Post by
Thraisenth
Obvious question, what does she think of this? If she doesn't even want him back then he has no ground to stand on tbh.
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557473
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Post by
gamerunknown
But for me, I would never date anyone that one of my friends went out with.
Unwritten rule in the bro code right there. You were being reasonable, but he'll feel betrayed nonetheless. It's like you were doubting his judgement or... I don't know, maybe it's an evolutionary instinct so they don't have to raise another's child.
Another unwritten rule is not to go out with the siblings. Though my dad was actually friends with my uncle and he dated my aunt before my mother and vice versa.
... weird.
Post by
Izichial
I feel it's worth pointing out for context that you waited
three times the total length of their relationship
before you struck up something with the girl. And that's assuming you even consider two months worth calling a relationship in the first place.
Also, what Thraisenth said. Sure, waiting is tactful towards your friend (and you did wait) but at the end of the day, she's no one's property and can be with whomever she wants to.
Post by
MyTie
I don't agree with all the people examining the length of time between the breakup and the formation of the new relationship. That girl is free. If she breaks up with guy 1, and guy 2 hooks up with her less than 10 seconds later, that is between guy 2 and her. It is none of guy 1's business.
Post by
OverZealous
I don't agree with all the people examining the length of time between the breakup and the formation of the new relationship. That girl is free. If she breaks up with guy 1, and guy 2 hooks up with her less than 10 seconds later, that is between guy 2 and her. It is none of guy 1's business.
While I agree with this, I could
see
how guy 1 might get upset if guy 1 and guy 2 are relatively close friends. That the situation is actually not guy 1's business doesn't concern him, because people aren't rational all the time.
Post by
MyTie
Agreed.
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557473
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Post by
MyTie
While I am not debating girl's freedom, I would like to point that if guy 2 is a close friend of anyone in the couple, he should be aware of circumstances of break up and judge possibility of couple getting back together and therefore leave some time for them to possibly reconcile. However, if guy 2 is stranger of some sorts (read not bro), you are completely correct.
Guy 1 and Girl require no one's permission to pursue a relationship.
Post by
Squishalot
Guy 1 and Girl require no one's permission to pursue a relationship.
It's not about permission, it's about respect for another person.
Post by
MyTie
It's not about permission, it's about respect for another person.
A relationship between two people has
no obligation nor necessity
to respect another person, nor should it feel the need to, nor should it take that even into peripheral consideration. If a relationship is started on the basis that it needs to respect another person, or somehow consider another person, then the relationship is built on a faulty premise. If dude and girl want to join up, it should be about love. Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, it does not act unbecomingly, it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. That's the nature of love. It isn't set aside in case somebody else isn't cool with it yet, because he was recently in a relationship with one of the people involved.
What you all are talking about is drama. What I am talking about is love. Screw drama. If two people love each-other, everyone and everything else can go fly a kite. (To dodge a predictable political jab, yes this goes for gays too)
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