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QOTD Thread #332- Do you think that people should keep cats outdoors?
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Post by
Azazel
I wouldn't want to. Watching everybody I ever loved die around me would drive me insane.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
What do you think is the amount of time you need to REALLY get to know someone before popping the question? How long is too long- what point should you realize that the other person doesn't ever want to marry you?
Post by
240140
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Post by
gamerunknown
Not sure. Wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone that didn't want to get married (hell, I think it'd be better if I just avoided relationships with human beings in general if possible). I also think that it's best to discuss long term outlooks on things fairly early, rather than finding out they're completely incompatible further down the line.
Post by
donnymurph
Never.
Post by
Thror
I do not think marriage is such an awesome thing. Getting married is expensive as crap, and after the ceremony, nothing really changes. The laws in my country are not at all harsh on unmarried couples. By marrying someone, you also give the other person the power to screw your life majorly. One would say you can mitigate that threat by simply choosing the right partner, but I have seen enough cases where things went horribly wrong even when it was not expected at all, to be optimistic in this regard.
So I do not really care about asking a girl for her hand. Some things I would consider harder are things like... when to tell her that I love her, or when would I think we are good enough to have children together. And I can not just give my rough estimates on that. Will depend on the girl (I'm single now).
Post by
MyTie
I dated some girls for a very very long time, and things broke up. I dated my wife for 1 month before we got engaged, and then a total of 6 months before we got married. We've been married 5 years now and are very happy. After the first date I knew I had something good.
Post by
Patty
Well considering I discuss marriage before said person even knows I exist...
I think it depends anyway, all relationships are different.
Lol, kinda the same, depending on who it is. Although I'd normally say a while, after you've been living together for a while and been in a relationship for a while as well. I know, a while isn't very easily quantified, but there's not a one size fits all approach. I think it's better to wait than jump the gun and completely !@#$ yourself over, because there are a lot of issues to consider (like financial, as Thror alluded to) before you make a decision like that. You can always get a divorce though, I guess.
Post by
Azazel
I don't want to get married. Marriage is a more religious tradition, so I won't do it unless my significant other is really desperate about it.
Post by
Patty
I don't want to get married. Marriage is a more religious tradition, so I won't do it unless my significant other is really desperate about it.
Well, civil partnership then. I doubt Elhonna specifically means the religious marriages, just the unity of two people by law as a couple in general, regardless of religious views/sexual orientation/other factors.
Post by
Azazel
I don't want to get married. Marriage is a more religious tradition, so I won't do it unless my significant other is really desperate about it.
Well, civil partnership then. I doubt Elhonna specifically means the religious marriages, just the unity of two people by law as a couple in general, regardless of religious views/sexual orientation/other factors.
Of course, you can get married here at the... forgot the name, but it's something completely unrelated to religion. It's something I don't want to do either though.
Post by
Patty
I don't want to get married. Marriage is a more religious tradition, so I won't do it unless my significant other is really desperate about it.
Well, civil partnership then. I doubt Elhonna specifically means the religious marriages, just the unity of two people by law as a couple in general, regardless of religious views/sexual orientation/other factors.
Of course, you can get married here at the... forgot the name, but it's something completely unrelated to religion. It's something I don't want to do either though.
Registry office? :P
Post by
ElhonnaDS
I'm just curious what people think. I have known couples who got married after dating less than 6 months, I have known people who have been together for 5-6 years and still haven't (but one partner is waiting for it). It's not about the people who don't believe in marriage vs the people who do as much as how long do you think you need to know someone to know that you want to spend your whole life with them. And, on the flip side, how long is long enough to think that if they haven't figured it out by then, then they really don't want to make a commitment to you.
Post by
Azazel
I don't want to get married. Marriage is a more religious tradition, so I won't do it unless my significant other is really desperate about it.
Well, civil partnership then. I doubt Elhonna specifically means the religious marriages, just the unity of two people by law as a couple in general, regardless of religious views/sexual orientation/other factors.
Of course, you can get married here at the... forgot the name, but it's something completely unrelated to religion. It's something I don't want to do either though.
Registry office? :P
Maybe, we call it something else entirely though.
Post by
Interest
The NEW QOTD Thread: #57- How long do you think you should date someone before discussing marriage?
Well aside from the fact I have no desire to get married, I'd say it's really up to the people, but I guess....1 to 2 years?
Post by
Squishalot
I'm just curious what people think. I have known couples who got married after dating less than 6 months, I have known people who have been together for 5-6 years and still haven't (but one partner is waiting for it). It's not about the people who don't believe in marriage vs the people who do as much as how long do you think you need to know someone to know that you want to spend your whole life with them. And, on the flip side, how long is long enough to think that if they haven't figured it out by then, then they really don't want to make a commitment to you.
I think you can talk to someone about your long-term future, without discussing marriage explicitly, and both walk away with an understanding of where you stand re: marriage.
So on that note, Elhonna, are we to expect wedding bells in the horizon? =D
To answer the topic: It depends. You can be dating for 6 years in high school and not have it come up. You could be dating someone as an adult and have it turn up on the first date as ground rules and expectations are set. Whatever works for them. Note - 'discussing marriage' is completely separate from 'planning to get married'.(##RESPBREAK##)8##DELIM##Squishalot##DELIM##
Post by
ElhonnaDS
I'm just curious what people think. I have known couples who got married after dating less than 6 months, I have known people who have been together for 5-6 years and still haven't (but one partner is waiting for it). It's not about the people who don't believe in marriage vs the people who do as much as how long do you think you need to know someone to know that you want to spend your whole life with them. And, on the flip side, how long is long enough to think that if they haven't figured it out by then, then they really don't want to make a commitment to you.
I think you can talk to someone about your long-term future, without discussing marriage explicitly, and both walk away with an understanding of where you stand re: marriage.
So on that note, Elhonna, are we to expect wedding bells in the horizon? =D
You're behind the times- I've been posting about my wedding plans for months :P
Post by
Squishalot
You're behind the times- I've been posting about my wedding plans for months :P
Must've been in the 90% of the RB that I don't read. Belated congrats!
Post by
ElhonnaDS
TY :)
PS: I'm going to have a bridal suite next to a shark tank. I think that's pretty cool.
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