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Post by
Thror
Long distance relationships that are on such a long distance that the couple can not meet each other at least a couple times per, say, year; and long distance relationships where the couple only knows each other from the internet, are not really viable in my opinion. It can be like, some sort of platonic friendlove, but I would really not call them romantic.
I have been in two long distance relationships where "long distance" meant about 2~ hours of travelling, one of them lasted for two years, the other one for half a year. They were alright, but there were some issues with them... like the longer one I had, really ended mostly because of problems that stemmed from the fact that it was a long distance.
I have known of guys who were separated from their girls for extended periods of time, especially when they go to war for a few years and so, and it sometimes works out absolutely alright... but I believe most of those relationships had a very solid "personal" beginning.
After meeting with a bunch of girls that lived here in Bratislava, I would strongly hesitate to head into a long distance relationship again. Seriously, the short distance can do so much good for a relationship. I got a text from a girl I am sorta going out with, at 4 am today, saying that she urgently needs my help, and I was at her place 17 minutes later (don't even think about saying that she is using me or anything like that, this was a very serious situation). I can't do that sorta stuff on a long distance. We can just flip out and be together even when we have just like, an hour or two of time. When you have to travel for 4 hours (back and forth), meetings become commitments, and you can not be spontaneous. Being spontaneous and being nearby when my help is needed are things that I value very highly and like to have them in a relationship.
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331902
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Post by
OverZealous
My simplified opinion is that love > distance. Obviously it's going to take a lot of work and it doesn't always work out in the end, but I know that long distance relationships both can and do work. It's likely that less long distance relationships end up working out compared to short-distance ones, but I wouldn't let that scare me if it happened. My girlfriend shares this opinion - I'm going to live in the U.S for 10-14 months, and she has been nothing but supportive.
Who knows, it might end up not working out once I'm there, but that remains to be seen. I think it's important to stay very much in touch as much as you can if you're apart though, or you'll end up growing apart emotionally, as well.
Post by
Rystrave
Technology makes it easier today than ever, the only thing missing is physical contact. (Someone with too much free time and a lot of spare latex is probably working on that as we speak)
LOL! This made me shudder a little bit...
Long distance relationships can work, but only if both sides are willing to let it work. I've been in one, and I drove 400 miles every weekend to see my boyfriend. I surprised him one weekend and didn't tell him I was coming. He surprised me with his other girlfriend.
So it's really up to both sides. I most definitely think it can work out.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
Do you think that if it's someone who you start out with as long distance, rather than someone who you start out close and then have a period of long distance, that there's a difference in how much you know the person? Do you think there's a greater likelihood that the person will be dishonest with you, or at least sugarcoat things that you'd rather know the truth about, if you're not in their lives to see what's going on?
Post by
Interest
#155- What are your opinions on long distance relationships? Are they viable? Can you maintain the relationship without being a person's physical presence? Do you think you get a really good sense of who a person is when you aren't spending time with them?
I have no issue. Yes. Yes, but since one can travel that's not necessarily a problem. Yes.
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Post by
gamerunknown
When I was about 12 my cousin tried to set me up over MSN (I think, perhaps AIM) with one of her friends. That was both fun and short lived.
My sister (as I mentioned earlier) is in a sort of long distance relationship (they meet on weekends with a two hour train ride). It's going to get further when she goes to Lyon to study for a year, hope it works out for them.
Post by
Skreeran
I'm an out-of-the-closet brony in the Army. I'd like to think O'm a bit difficult to embarrass at this point. :P
When you are found face down with 50 bullet holes in your back, I'm sure the verdict will be suicide :)?
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ElhonnaDS
He's implying that your squad must be so uncomfortable with you based on that, that they are going to murder you. Such a ray of sunshine.
Post by
gnomerdon
long distance relationships = dangerous
make sure u are laid back, and if the worse happens, you'll treat it as if you skipped dinner and starving the next day.
Post by
Squishalot
Further to the point - what are people classifying as 'long distance'? I saw a comment about 'a two hour train ride' - my girlfriend takes that long to get to uni each morning.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
I was thinking like a plane ride away when I said long distance. Definitely not an every weekend thing.
Post by
Squishalot
See, that's what I was thinking too. That being said, I'd be happy to take a plane ride every weekend to visit my girlfriend if she or I were living in another city - flights are relatively cheap these days. $120 return flights, it might even be cheaper than the petrol I'm paying to see her during the week :P
Post by
gamerunknown
I saw a comment about 'a two hour train ride' - my girlfriend takes that long to get to uni each morning.
I had to do that too at the beginning of last school year. Not fun.
They are sort of four hours away from each other, it's two hours on each end... England is a small country though. Even London to Lyon is less distance than the width of Texas.
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ElhonnaDS
#156- If you could design Heaven, what would it be like? I'd like this to just be for fun- I know many people don't believe in a heaven, or believe that they already know exactly what it will be, or don't believe they could improve on what it already is. This is just a "What Dreams May Come" type exercise- a question about "what if."
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OverZealous
Anything south of Kiruna, or a swimming hall. Lol, no - but seriously, I don't really know. I guess I'd appreciate an endless amount of things to discover, and for it to be a place without pain and grief. There are a million things I would want, but those are the two most important, to me.
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240140
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Interest
Perfectly pure solitude with all possible creature comforts besides that.
I guess I just like being lonely.
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