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QOTD Thread #332- Do you think that people should keep cats outdoors?
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Monday
Thank you cards, I fully agree with. Also, any sort of discussion while in public transportation.
Post by
Interest
#128- What social conventions do you find pointless? I'm mostly talking about traditions and points of etiquette- not looking for anything about morality.
My own is Thank You cards- I never get why people insist on Thank You cards when everyone you invited to your party is close enough to you that you see them all the time, and are on informal terms.
Pretty much every single conceivable conversation I have with my father and his coworker on precision of language and Korean tradition and what to do/what not to do (obviously in terms of etiquette).
Post by
Orranis
How, when you're done with a meal, you're supposed to arrange your eating utensils on your plate. Like, seriously? It even differs from country to country.
Post by
Patty
How, when you're done with a meal, you're supposed to arrange your eating utensils on your plate. Like, seriously? It even differs from country to country.
Or if you're supposed to pile up your dishes or not. Or if you're supposed to leave the plate empty or with a tiny bit of food. Ugh, basically all the food customs.
Post by
donnymurph
Gifts given specifically due to the occasion - the most common being Christmas, birthdays and weddings. I feel that this convention undermines the true nature of gift-giving.
I would also say people's fear regarding profanity. Especially women who are disgusted by the "c" word - it's just a word!
Post by
Squishalot
#128- What social conventions do you find pointless? I'm mostly talking about traditions and points of etiquette- not looking for anything about morality.
This is bordering on DOTD territory, considering it's potential for controversy, but one that's been the target of a number of weekend newspaper pieces is the tradition of married women changing their surname to their husband's name.
Post by
FatalHeaven
I would also say people's fear regarding profanity. Especially women who are disgusted by the "c" word - it's just a word!
I'm not sure I'd define it as
fear
. I think it's a despicable word among others and no matter how you say it or in what context, it's complete filth. I think the word is trashy and disgusting but afraid of it? No.
I don't
fear
any profanity but I do think it just makes people who use it look like the trash they are spewing.
Of course, I've said my fair share of trashy things, but I try not to and it's really rare. When it does happen I legitimately become embarrassed and apologize to those around me.
Post by
Sas148
I say the "c" word to my female friend sometimes in a completely joking manner, she shivers when she hears the word so I find it amusing. lol - She says: "Gah! Ewww" lol
Post by
Sas148
I find the "social etiquette" of opening doors for women or allowing them to enter first or that type of "chivalry" to be pointless. Women have fought to be treated equally in the U.S. and yet some of them for whatever reason want to hold on to parts of the social etiquette of the time that they found favorable. Both genders are either treated equally or nothing in my opinion. :P Open the door for me sometimes ladies and I'll do the same for you!
Post by
Squishalot
I find the "social etiquette" of opening doors for women or allowing them to enter first or that type of "chivalry" to be pointless. Women have fought to be treated equally in the U.S. and yet some of them for whatever reason want to hold on to parts of the social etiquette of the time that they found favorable. Both genders are either treated equally or nothing in my opinion. :P Open the door for me sometimes ladies and I'll do the same for you!
I hold doors open for men as well, and offer to let men go first stepping out of lifts etc.. It sounds more like you just don't want to open a door for someone :P
Post by
Sas148
lol - I do open doors for people all the time. I just don't like when I'm with someone, man or women... who will for whatever reason stand by the door waiting for ME to open it.
I mean, seriously?
What about the guy always having to pay for the meal when a (for this example: heterosexual) couple goes out? I think the person who asked for the date should pay for the date, or agree to pay for your own meals on the date.
Post by
Squishalot
What about the guy always having to pay for the meal when a (for this example: heterosexual) couple goes out? I think the person who asked for the date should pay for the date, or agree to pay for your own meals on the date.
I think you're going out with the wrong girls - I never had that issue ;) My girlfriend is insistent on trying to pay her share of everything, including holidays away.
Personally, I think it should more be about earning power - who is better placed to pay? Just so happens that tends to be the guys (be it glass ceiling, natural selection, or any other sexist reason).
Post by
Sas148
I don't go out with women. This is just my observations of how the women I hang out with act. lol
Being gay though allows me to look at her when she stands by the door and say, "Open your own damn door girl, jeez!" :D(##RESPBREAK##)8##DELIM##sas148##DELIM##
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612548
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Post by
donnymurph
Oh, here's another one: congratulating people for giving birth. I don't see why that is so worthy of congratulation. It is something that almost every woman who has ever reached adulthood has done. It's nothing special.
To me, what would be more worthy of congratulation would be someone who is unable to conceive, but wishes to raise children, and finds another means to achieve this goal - such as successfully becoming a foster parent or adopting an underprivileged child.
Post by
Sas148
Obviously I will never give birth... but from what I've heard, after a women has endured that "beautiful biological function" it's appropriate to congratulate them. It's like completing ten freaking marathons.
Post by
Thror
Oh, here's another one: congratulating people for giving birth. I don't see why that is so worthy of congratulation. It is something that almost every woman who has ever reached adulthood has done. It's nothing special.
This just shows that you can not really feel empathy for the women who give birth. Would you congratulate a man (who is your friend of some sort) who has managed to, say, climb a mountain for the first time in his life?
- Saying "bless you" (or the Dutch version of it) when someone sneezes. It's a normal bodily function. People don't say "bless you" when someone comes out of the toilet or burps either.
I actually like saying "bless you". There are many ways in which you can make someone smile by saying it too, when you are a little inventive. Like once I have heard a woman from the office next door sneeze and I called her just to say bless you and it made her laugh. Or yesterday when we were going to sleep with my friend, she sneezed three times in a row, and I went Bless you -> Bless you 2 ->
Bless you strikes back!
, which she found rather funny as well. :3
The only social convention that has ever stood in my way was how in some areas people are afraid to be informal. You see, I am a graphic designer. I make posters and invitations and stuff. Personally, I find strictly formal posters a little less fun to make than posters with informalities, and in a few occasions, I think the formality could have been loosened up a bit, but there are just way too many people who are afraid to let me do it. Now, don't think that I am one of those guys that would want clients to give in to my personal quirks or anything, or that I would want to put trollfaces all over something as serious as a graduation ceremony; but there just have been a few thingies here and there in my career where I was hard capped by formality unjustly, IMO.
Another area where the general shyness and formality irks me a little is when I am photographing. There tends to be this huge conference in the university I work at where students present their projects and they all have it printed on large fancy posters and are wearing awesome suits and stuff, and let me tell you, a bunch of young people in super formal clothing doing not-so-formal things is one of the best things to photograph. Like, my most favourite photo from the last conference is when I caught a bunch of students just chilling in the park, all suited up of course! I had to be careful to be super sneaky, because I bet if they would spot me, they would assume their "I am standing super straight and pretending to be explaining something with a poker face on, while pointing at my poster slightly"-pose, which they do
all the time
! And in this case, the university peoples don't even want them to be formal like that. We want pictures where our students look like they are doing serious things
but enjoying it
. And that's hard when they become statues as soon as a camera goes around. Now, thankfully, that is not the case with all the students. There are quite a few guys, especially the seniors, who are waaay too used to me being around, and those usually help me make some good shots and stuff.
And even in public, strict formality is getting on my nerves slightly, but I am more capable of ignoring that, heh! Some of you probably know the looks you get when you pop out in something that goes out of the conventional clothing code... Like a top hat! Oh the looks I got when I went out in a top hat, it was ridiculous. Those poor people, if only they knew how fancy it feels. If only they were capable of sharing the fanciness! And stuff.
Post by
donnymurph
I was going to respond, but realised that no matter how I worded it, it would come across as misogynistic, which is not my intention. So I'll let it drop.
Post by
ElhonnaDS
#129- What do you keep a "stash" of? Like, what do you stockpile so you're never without it, and maybe even keep hidden to avoid sharing?
Post by
OverZealous
Watermelon pastilles. I don't drink things like coffee or alcohol, nor do I smoke - but I guess you could say that those pastilles are my drugs. Nobody gets to touch them but me, they're
mine
! Honestly, I can't focus properly without one at least every two or three hours.
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